Rituals

Why we need Rituals?

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No Change

When we resolve to make a good habit or break a bad one, we often reach out to inspirational books, podcasts, or videos on a topic of our interest. We exert efforts by investigating the matter, yet some of us falsely associate these efforts with our desired ends. The information alone will not lead to any change.

Temporary Change

Most of us can go beyond and create some changes by applying the information we have acquired. We exercise for two weeks, meditate three days a row, or go to bed earlier. Yet, most of us fail to create a lasting change despite being motivated.

Lasting Change

A lasting change is possible but requires more than information and motivation, namely:

  1. Belief
  2. Guidance
  3. Right fit
  4. Hard work

First, you need to believe that change is possible. Knowing that you can change makes it more likely that you will change. Second, you need guidance to learn and experiment with techniques proven to work by research. Third, you need to find the right fit—strategies that work for you in your situation. Lastly, you must commit to hard work when learning, experimenting, and repeating the practice.

I have created this course to help you with all of these. In this course, you will learn why a change is possible and how to build lasting habits. Then you will discover and experiment with well-researched techniques. You will be encouraged to make a habit whenever you find the right fit. This course simplifies the process and immensely makes the hard work fun.

Before we look at the first technique, let's learn why a change is possible.

Change Is Possible

We used to believe that a human brain becomes fixed at a young age or even deteriorates with age. This belief became a self-reinforcing loop, preventing most of us from creating the lasting changes we desire.

Thanks to modern research on neuroplasticity and neurogenesis, that belief cannot be further from the truth. Scientists suggest that you can change your thoughts, feelings, and behavior—at any age.

Neuroplasticity is the formation of new neural pathways and the narrowing or expanding existing neural pathways.

Neurogenesis is the birth, the formation of new neurons in the brain.

To modify our neural pathways, we have to engage in a repetitive practice that aligns with our desired change. New pathways become wider and self-reinforcing until the action becomes automatic.

"Neurons that fire together, wire together."

— Donald Hebb

Let's get practical and learn the first technique—Rituals, which will explain how we can leverage these findings to create lasting changes.

Rituals

A ritual is a repetitive practice that eventually leads to lasting change. These repetitions can take the form of thoughts, feelings, or actions.

Here's how you create a new ritual:

  1. First, think about what changes you desire—perhaps you would like to make your bed every morning.
  2. Next, think about how you want to achieve this change—perhaps you can aim to never leave your bedroom before making your bed.
  3. Finally, repeat this process for 30 days.

Adhering to this routine for 30 days is easier said than done. So here are practical tips that will help you stick to your new ritual:

  • Do not introduce more than 1 to 2 rituals at once.
  • It is entirely okay to fail at the beginning.
  • Stack the routine before or after something you already do—perhaps you can do a light stretch before making your breakfast.
  • Begin slowly—for example, exercise only for two minutes.
  • Do not look for changes overnight; focus on the direction.
  • Take steps to make it easier to execute your ritual—for example, you can put a serving of healthy nuts on the table.
  • Start acting as you want to, even if you have to fake it at first.
  • Tell your family and friends about your new ritual.

After 30 days

After 30 days, you won't need to think about repetitions anymore. Your brain will physically rewire itself, and the desired outcome will become automatic. According to the research, the brain starts physically changing after only 14 days.

In the following lessons, you will learn various techniques worth ritualizing. Experiment with them and find the right leverage that works for you.

Remember, the only thing that does not change is change itself. You, too, are changing at every moment. Are you drifting, or are you growing?

Bad habits

Giving up a bad habit is the easiest thing to do. Some people have done so thousands of times. But joking aside, an effective method to combat a bad habit is to replace it with another ritual. For example, every time you are about to take a piece of candy, do three push-ups instead.

"We first make our habits and then our habits make us."

— John Dryden

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