Change Is Possible
Have you ever struggled to build a habit despite being motivated? Motivation is not enough. Learn what research has shown, followed by practical tips on how to create a lasting change.
We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.
A ritual is a repetitive practice that will eventually lead to a lasting change. These repetitions can take the form of thoughts, feelings, or actions.
Here's how you can create a new ritual:
- First, think about what changes you desire—perhaps you would like to make your bed every morning.
- Next, think about how you want to achieve this change—perhaps you can aim to never leave your bedroom before making your bed.
- Finally, repeat this process for 30 days.
I admit that adhering to this routine for 30 days is easier said than done. So here are practical tips that will help you stick to your new ritual:
- Do not introduce more than 1 to 2 rituals at once.
- It is entirely okay to fail at the beginning.
- Stack the routine before or after something you already do—perhaps you can do a light stretch before making your breakfast.
- Begin slowly—for example, exercise only for two minutes.
- Do not look for changes overnight; focus on the direction.
- Take steps to make it easier for you to execute your ritual—for example, you can put a serving of healthy nuts on the table.
- Start acting the way you want to be, even if you have to fake it at first.
- Tell your family and friends about your new ritual.
After 30 days, you won't need to think about repetitions anymore. Your brain will have physically rewired itself, and the desired outcome will become automatic.
In the following lessons, you will learn various techniques that are worth ritualizing. Experiment with them and find the right leverage that works for you.
Remember, the only thing that does not change is change itself. You, too, are changing at every moment. Are you drifting, or are you growing?
Giving up a bad habit is the easiest thing to do. Some people have done so thousands of times. But joking aside, an effective method to combat a bad habit is to replace it with another ritual. For example, every time you are about to take a piece of candy, do three push-ups instead.
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